You Are Important

There are certain pens I like to write with. The ones that just dance across the paper painting the letters onto the page so effortlessly. I like to write these posts on paper first, preferably alone, at least alone in in my mind.

And for a moment, it’s quiet up there, like a dark basement that’s scarily silent as you enter it. All you hear are the stairs creaking as you tip-toe your way down them slowly. Then all of a sudden, the thoughts flood in!

I hear combinations of words from conversations I had prior. I see images of moments that I caught and pinned in my mind. I feel old feelings that once circumvented my entire being just hours before.

And as I reflect, the pen finds the paper, and I begin to write.

I like to be alone. I am not a loner, I just enjoy being with myself. It’s because I like myself.

No, really I do. I love myself! I get all giddy when I say it.

I genuinely like who I am, what I look like, sound like, smell like (eh, why not?) I like what I do for work. I like the way I spend my free time, my hobbies and pastimes. I like who I surround myself with, my family, friends, like-minded people. I like the values ingrained in me. I like the relationship I have with myself, my level of awareness and acceptance.

I am grateful that I am who I am. Better yet, I am proud. And to show my gratitude, I spend quality time with myself.

Do you like yourself? Do you love yourself? Just sit with that question for a minute.

If you answered yes, well good for you! I love that you love yourself. You ought to! So, what does that mean? Well yes, you look in the mirror and you like the person you see staring back. But more than that.

Do you appreciate all the little things you do for yourself?

Such as, five extra minutes of sleep in the morning, those few extra reps at the gym, a daily dose of Vitamin D, more time with that special someone.

Do you forgive yourself when you make a mistake?

Such as, eating a little too much cake, saying something you shouldn’t have, or missing an important meeting.

Do you allow yourself to feel sad when you want to feel sad? Or mad when it wants to feel mad? Or, do you drown the sadness and madness with fear and anxiety?

I wonder what it would be like if you could just like yourself enough to be with yourself for just some time – just you, with all of your perfect imperfections.

So, maybe you said no, you don’t like yourself. Well, first of all, you are not alone. It’s hard. Life is hard.

What is it you don’t like about yourself? And if you don’t know, or even if you do, well how well do you know yourself? What would it take to get to know yourself a little better?

After all, as they say, the first step is awareness. (I am not sure who they are, but we’ll just go with it.)

So, what would it take for you to create that awareness for yourself?

And then, once you have the awareness, imagine what you could do with it?! You could choose – left or right, yes or no, happy or sad, at cause or at effect! The choices would be endless. This I know for sure, and so do you.

So now, go back through this post, and answer every question for yourself. Use a pen and paper! Why? Because you are important. Yes, you Reading this. You.

If you need my help, just send me a message. I’ll be sure to see you through it.